Why coaching is also about who, not why.

You can usually tell within the first few minutes whether a coaching conversation is working.

But the tell isn't in what gets said, it's in who's doing the thinking.

Because a lot of what passes for coaching is really just advice-giving dressed as questions.

"Have you thought about trying...?" The other person can feel it, and they answer accordingly.

The harder version is sitting with the silence, resisting the urge to fix, and trusting someone to find their own way to an answer you could have handed them in ten seconds.

It takes longer. It's far more useful.